I have finally come to grips with two constants in my life:
1.) I am a workaholic. When I get something in my craw, I don’t give up and I want to see it through to completion.
2.) And I’m not very good at being kind to myself.
So when you couple those to things, you end up with someone who is more than happy to work until their gas tank is completely empty. So I did something relatively normal for most, but completely uncharacteristic for me.
I made myself breakfast.
Allow me to explain.
Mornings in our house are insane; my husband and I are trying to get ourselves and our 6 and 3-year-old ready for school. The kids always get breakfast of course, but normally I’m stuck with just a big cup of coffee to tide me over until lunch. But this week, after everyone was out the door, I put my phone as far away as possible, and made myself eggs, toast, and a clementine. It was the most peaceful and filling breakfast I have had in a long time. And not just filling because I ate, but emotionally fulling, because I had 20 minutes to just eat and enjoy some quiet. No one to run after, no phone to distract me. It was so good for my soul. So much so, that I made a promise to myself, that I will do this at least once a week.
I have a sneaking suspicion that you most likely have this problem too. Maybe for you it’s not breakfast; maybe it’s a hot bath, or curling up with a good book. Whatever it is, for the health of your business and for you, don’t forget to be good to yourself.
Right now you’re probably thinking, “Oh ok Rita. I’ll get right on that. Right after I change the baby, take my dog to the vet, start a load of laundry, and renew all of my listings.”
I know it’s incredibly difficult to keep all of the plates spinning. I know there are so many demands on you and your time. But a few minutes of peace and clarity will recharge your batteries, and make it so much easier to keep those arms going. Without some self care, you’re no good to anyone else.
Make the time. You are worth it.
Your family and business will be so much better off for it. I promise.
So please: make yourself some breakfast this week. And then come back and tell me all about it.